hendrik

Exacty that. I’d agree: about 3 or 4 accounts, judging by what I read. Often got some genuine and constructive answers… Never listening and predetermined that everything is futile and set on dragging themself down. Dismissing every help and then posting the same question again, a few days later. This time the post is a bit different, though.

I already wished them the best and said I hope they get help, a few weeks ago. I don’t think OP is a troll, but ill. But OP can’t escape their unhealthy behaviour. Usually the first step is to realize there is something wrong and you have to do something. But I think that is a solid barrier for them. OP rather indulges in self-pity and brushes everything aside and blames circumstances.

I mean there are people who want to feel victimized or want to feel the feeling of pain. But that’s definitely not normal. And they need to talk to a professional about that.

I think I know your posts from a while back under different usernames. And no, giving up on everything isn’t healthy or normal.

Probably the ones who oppress their own people, wage war, manufacture weapons and death, spread terrorism… I’m not singling out any specific one. It’s difficult to compare which atrocity is the worst and choose a winner.

Mind posting a screenshot? I see it like in the screenshots by the other commenters… No karma anywhere…

I mean there are apps who do things differently, and they can go ahead and compute something, add up the votes and display that. But it’s not in Lemmy itself. Not that I’m aware of.

Yeah, as the other people here pointed out, there is no such thing as karma here on Lemmy. So your post is a bit pointless. In fact they tried not to include too much gamification, in a deliberate attempt to address a few issues with how it works on Reddit.

And showing the number of posts a user posted isn’t the same thing. You sometimes want to know if someone is active, or a regular, or a lurker or a new account. And getting that info requires a few clicks and a deliberate attempt. Not something people are going to brag with. It doesn’t even tell much. Could be 100 low-quality posts. Or 100 posts done in 5 minutes in a private community that no one ever read.

And I mean even if there were Lemmy points and you’re zeroing them out and introduce a “years of service”… Isn’t that going to be the next toxic metric people are going to brag with? And it’ll incentivise people to create some empty accounts, so they have something ready in the future, should they need it. Or they’re going to look down on other people and say “yeah, but I have 2 years of service”… So I’d argue if you want to get rid of farming points, you have to get rid of them, not introduce a different one.

Knowing things about people and having lots of info on them gives someone power over them. And they don’t just do it for fun. They have some motives. I’d also rather not give it to some authoritan regime.

Ultimately everyone has to decide… Do I tell everyone my exact salary? Do I keep it to some people and not tell others? Do I close the blinds of the bedroom while having intimacy? And what harm is there in the neighbors knowing what I like to do in private?

It’d help me if you (meaning everyone here) just pressed the upvote button every now and then. I’m regularly typing long answers here, contribute perspectives or give good advice. And seeing that valued by people is on the decline, lately. I occasionally scroll through my old comments and I regularly ask myself if it’s worth the effort if no-one engages or even shows any appreciation by voting.

Feel free to also write text if you have some time to spare. But I think upvoting comments is an important issue to me, too. And it’d already get us somewhere. And can be done by any lurker.

And I really agree with the “post more in their own niche hobbies”. That’d really add to this place. Immensely. I always complain that I’m here for that. And instead, most people just dump the news from some newspapers.

World war III and after that NATO countries occupying Russia. Probably quite some people die and things get destroyed in the process.

I think if they’re smart they destabilize the regime and go for Putin. And not fight the whole country and population of Russia.

Yeah. I wasn’t implying that. You didn’t call me anything. I’m just a bit sad that it is the way it is. I think in a democracy it is our job (we as the people / citizens) to shape the world around us. Ideally it’d work that way and that’s what democracy is about (at least in part). It’s super unhealthy for a society that people can’t talk to each other or reconcile. But that’s where things are steering towards?!

Being stubborn and having strong opinions, calling each other names and confining people to labels doesn’t get us anywhere. And it doesn’t get anything solved. I’d not participate in that, either. The sad thing is that this silences the good people. Maybe like you(?) And in the end I’m not okay with that. Idk. Take care… Have a nice day… I think on a personal level your reasoning is perfectly valid.

Yeah, fair enough. It’s a bit weird for me to discuss politics, too. Especially since I’m not from the US and lots of people here are. But our perspectives are so different. I’ve been called a communist. And I’m far from it. A lot of people are ignorant or trolling, too. That has nothing to do with where they come from. And yeah. Lemmy in general is overly political. I completely agree. And I’d rather discuss some computer projects, personal projects and hobbies or whatever. Most of politics is just a shitshow. Especially when I look across the ocean. And that’s none of my business, strictly speaking. We have our issues, too. I’m not okay with excluding capitalism from the arguments, as I think it’s one of the biggest issue with for example why parts of the internet suck. But I think I get it if you say you’re tired of it and resignate.

I think that’s a you problem. If you’re too thin-skinned for the truth, I don’t think there is a good way to engage with people on the internet. Especially technology is a field that’s massively intertwined with money. In our current world, the largest and dominatig companies are about technology and selling ads. That’s just the way it is. So when talking about facts and real-world issues with internet technology, this influence is bound to come up… I mean feel free to have your own opinion. Maybe it’s also a cultural difference in our perspective on the world. I’m also a person who doesn’t shy away from calling them out.

You’re doing a good job in my opinion. I also try to reply to people. Because having a discussion was the reason why I posted in the first place. But I think it’s not necessary to reply to everyone. I just upvote comments that I don’t have a meaningful reply to, and that way people can see that I (or someone) appreciated them typing it out. I think that’s enough. And I don’t judge an OP by replying specifically to me. I just look if they at least added one or two comments to their discussion themselves. And if there’s votes to some of the comments. If that’s the case I think everything is fine.

(Though, I at least demand one vote for my comment if I give a correct answer or give a lengthy reply. Sadly that doesn’t always happen.)

I subscribe to communities and only read what I’m interested in. So I didn’t notice anything. But I know lots of people use Lemmy differently and read the “All” feed. That might be an entirely different perspective.

I don’t get a lot of behaviour here. I think that should be cleaned up automatically. Just grabbing a community name and blocking it without doing anything with it is just bad for the platform.

Another thing I don’t get is people posting questions and then never engaging with the comments. Not answering follow-up questions or up-/downvoting answers. Always seems to me like speaking to a wall. And you can never sure when replying, if it’s a genuine question or you’re just going to waste your time by typing a reply.

And I hope when people marry, they don’t take the husbands name as a family name… I mean that’s the same concept and not honoring the parents of the wife. I think if you believe in that, everyone absolutely also needs to stick with their maiden name.

What’s a “thinking rock”?

I usually look at these awesome … lists. They list quite some mail servers:

https://github.com/awesome-selfhosted/awesome-selfhosted?tab=readme-ov-file#communication—email—complete-solutions

I think you first need a mailserver, then you’d use imapsync (for example) to move the mailbox initially, and then periodically fetch the mails from gmail.

For outgoing mail you can either configure your mailserver to relay mail via your gmail account. Or configure your mail program to send mail directly via gmail.

I completely don’t get what those people do. Where I come from, you either don’t believe in God, because you believe in facts. And you’re nice to people because it’s the right thing to do… Or you believe that God had a son (who is at the same time also him) and that son also told you to be nice to people… So I don’t get how people claim being an asshole is somehow mandated to them.

Be nice, engage with people. Maybe see if you can assure there is content coming in regularly…

Jo. And what faith even prohibits changing names? Bigotry? Or is that in some old book?