When your mind and body doesn’t correlate eachother anymore as they used to. Your body wants to say “hey! lets go out and do things!” but your mind tends to go “Nah, I just want to sit here and think about stuff” and sometimes it is the opposite.

  • yesman@lemmy.world
    37·
    6 days ago

    Doors close and options narrow. The way you think about the future fundamentally changes.

    You have to remember not to project your decline onto culture, society, and the world. You have to remember that many, many things are better now than when you were young.

    • AA5B@lemmy.world
      4·
      5 days ago

      While I haven’t yet had that happen, they’re all talking about retiring soon, they all have hearing issues, and none of us have energy to have fun anymore

      • BeBopALouie@lemmy.caEnglish
        3·
        5 days ago

        I am 68 so it’s prime time for boomer friend pop offs right now. I was 100% healthy until 59 and then I got a pinched nerve in my back, sciatica and neuropathy all within 6 months. Now I can only walk 10 paces and I have to sit. I don’t have a fair assessment of aging cuz that shit stepped in but if I did not have all that crap I would just say arthritis bugs me.

  • mech@feddit.org
    16·
    5 days ago

    You stop making new friends, and the friends you’ve had move away, don’t have time anymore due to family and job, and eventually start dying off.
    If you don’t make a conscious effort and invest time into creating new friendships (with considerable difficulty since you yourself are tied to “adult” obligations), you can end up alone with withered social skills before you realize it.

    There’s also the danger of collecting bad memories or feelings of regret tied to certain activities, like “I should start playing the guitar again…but I already tried to get back into it multiple times, so why bother?”
    If you aren’t careful that will lead to stopping doing the things you once enjoyed, with no new hobbies to take their place.

    • exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      4·
      5 days ago

      If you don’t make a conscious effort and invest time into creating new friendships (with considerable difficulty since you yourself are tied to “adult” obligations), you can end up alone with withered social skills before you realize it.

      One of the things I did when I was in my 20’s and 30’s that I’m really glad I did, was to always be willing to relocate. I did it about 5 times for new jobs, once for a new school, and twice for a romantic relationship (including with the woman I ended up marrying). I made new friends in each city, and kept those “new friendship” social skills over time. Now I’ve settled into a specific place with my family, but I have friends all over the U.S., know a little bit about a lot of cities and their neighborhoods and the local culture, and perhaps most importantly, know what I’m looking for in friendships and relationships.

      I made new friends in my 30’s because I absolutely had to, living in a city where I only knew one other person. And now I’m still making new friends occasionally in my 40’s because I like to: colleagues and neighbors and fellow parents from my kids’ schools, etc.

    • itsAsin@lemmy.world
      5·
      6 days ago

      all the upvotes.

      bad feelings have poisoned the majority of my past memories and relationships and hobbies. as a result, i have had to abandon so so many of them that it hurts. and it is very difficult to figure out what comes next for me.

  • Heikki2@lemmy.world
    19·
    6 days ago

    When you’re peeing and you finish peeing, so you put it away and then you pee a little more in your pants

    • HurricaneLiz@lemmy.world
      6·
      5 days ago

      Female here, but iirc that last little bit came down fresh from your kidneys into your bladder as soon as the bladder empties. I just wait like a minute til that extra comes out before I finish up if I’m not wearing a liner and it works. Idk if it would work for men tho? Hopefully? 😂

  • MrsDoyle@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    16·
    6 days ago

    Getting old is a sniper’s alley. You’re running through, and all around you people are getting picked off, dropping to the ground. Cancer, stroke, dementia, falling down the stairs. Somehow you’re still going, brilliant! But then you find a lump, or get chest pains…

    So far I’m one of the lucky ones, still dodging the bullets but hoping for a good clean end when it’s my turn.

    • MrsDoyle@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      5·
      5 days ago

      I’m hit! Woman down! Slipped on the ice and am now in hospital with a fucked-up knee. Waiting for an MRI scan, spending the night here. Codeine isn’t helping, hoping for some hillbilly heroin.

      On the bright side I have excellent friends and neighbours. I feel loved.

  • AA5B@lemmy.world
    8·
    5 days ago

    I’m me of the fundamental changes for me was ……

    FROM: oh good a new project to learn, a new tool to buy

    TO: I don’t want to deal with fixing that again or having to buy yet another tool. How expensive can it be to just pay someone and have it done?

  • Rcklsabndn@sh.itjust.works
    5·
    5 days ago

    Having to go to old people parties.

    It’s rather go to diy underground shows, but I’m dad aged now.

    I rust wasn’t too rave and dance, but I feel like most of the kids would be creeped out.

  • kersploosh@sh.itjust.works
    20·
    6 days ago

    I don’t know if there’s anything unique about aging. The shittiest part of aging IMO is the random life-changing medical events you cannot foresee or prevent. It could be as simple as stumbling on uneven ground and tearing your ACL, or as extreme as being diagnosed with some unusual cancer.

  • MuttMutt@lemmy.worldEnglish
    19·
    6 days ago

    I was told once many years ago by a retired (kinda) member of a major biker gang the following:

    “Getting old ain’t for pussies.”

    I was around twelve, he wasn’t lying, I’m forty-six now. All the stupid crap you have done early on in your life will come back around and cause aches and pains. You have to force yourself to keep moving through the pain or you will end up doing next to nothing every chance you get.

    My mind has always kept me at home so I can’t say much there, I’ve never been to a club and rarely go to bars. I’m just not a social person.

    • AA5B@lemmy.world
      2·
      5 days ago

      Or hangovers. Honestly I can’t drink anymore because a single beer makes me tired and a second beer leaves me with a hangover. Where’s that buzz that used to make a beer or two enjoyable?

  • Random Dent@lemmy.mlEnglish
    7·
    5 days ago

    Sometimes things just stop working for no apparent reason, and you phone the doctor then play the “well, hopefully this isn’t permanent” waiting game which is fun. Current case: earwax or just deaf in one ear now?

  • Admiral Patrick@dubvee.orgEnglish
    16·
    6 days ago

    Most contemporary music sounds like shit. I try to stay current to at least within the last 3 years, but the older I get, the more it just sounds like shit.

    South Park did an episode about it, and they were spot on.

      • Admiral Patrick@dubvee.orgEnglish
        4·
        5 days ago

        Oh yeah, I’m the same. It just gets rarer and rarer each year that I find something I can enjoy. Objectively, it has nothing to do with the quality of modern music (well, maybe a little lol) just the styles changing and my taste not keeping up.

    • zonnewin@feddit.nl
      2·
      5 days ago

      If you’re into rock, check out The Warning. Three young sisters from Mexico who make very solid rock and are brilliant live!

      • Admiral Patrick@dubvee.orgEnglish
        2·
        5 days ago

        Hard to quantify it, so bear with me.

        Not so much a specific genre or distribution medium as much as “the artist/band was born after 9/11”. Like, there are some bands that have been around forever and still putting out new stuff and that’s mostly fine (though I don’t necessarily like all of it) but anything overly electronic is basically a hard pass for me.

        • JakoJakoJako13@piefed.socialEnglish
          2·
          5 days ago

          This reads as if nothing of the last 25 years is good to you. What do you like? Do you like rock or metal? There’s been like 6 golden eras of heavy metal in that time period. Australian rock and metal has been fire for about 20 years. The rise and fall of Djent as a genre. Black metal finally getting with the times production wise. There’s as deep a well in those two genres as there’s ever been.