I actually just ended a short relationship with a woman recently. She had a kid who was closer to my age than she was, and it was honestly fine until I went over one eve while her child was still there (I did not realise they were going to be there). It was very strange. I had stepdads growing up, and meeting that kid just totally made me feel like I was one of the stepdads meeting me, lol.

I’m not emotionally mature enough to have kids, nor to provide much stability to a woman who has already been married and had a kid, so no - I broke things off.

I would absolutely date a single parent. When I’m older, more mature, and have something to bring to the table.

I’m working! But I’m working from home, which is nice, and there’s only a few other people in. Thankfully the entire “management” (it’s three people) are off, so I can focus on my job.

Or, I would be able to, if the marketer who is in would stop messaging me about random little tasks that they can’t be arsed to do.

The government of Israel is intentionally conducting a horrific genocide of innocent Palestinian men, women, and children. I want to be absolutely crystal clear that I think it’s a crime against humanity and the perpetrators must be tried and any good court must convict.

I can’t get onboard with bloodthirsty statements about how “hopefully” a lot of Israeli civilians died. That’s just a personal thing for me, and the comment reads, to me, as hoping that civilians died.

I understand the sentiment that they’re settlers and occupiers, and I understand that they may have even held awful, incorrect, pro-colonialism opinions and had harmful beliefs, but personally for me I can’t get on board with sincerely hoping that unarmed civilians are murdered en masse.

Edit: sorry, yeah you’re right, it doesn’t read as “Jews” specifically and I understand that intentionally blurring the lines between Judaism and Israeli people is a zionist tactic. I apologise, I still think the statement is uncomfortable but you’re right in what you’ve said.

That is not how that comment reads.

The Borderlands, on the other hand, is a pretty good found footage horror that I’d definitely recommend

Oh fuck I’m a bot you got me beeeep boooop list me up

I’m gonna tuck into my chocolate orange

AAAAAAH I’m being gaslit oh nooooo

I took a look at their comments and It’s that alias_qr_rainmaker guy again!

Jesus dude, this is what you’re doing on Christmas eve? 😂

If AI is far better than humans, can you do yourself a favour, go talk to your little robot friends and leave us humans alone?

Gotta be honest, the fact that it feels like every website now asks me if I want to set up a passkey makes me thoroughly, deeply, wholly skeptical of this thing.

Wait, who’s the “people like that” in your middle paragraph? Is it “people who masquerade as Hitler online”, or “people who ask why”?

Yeah, you’re right. That would take it from a kid being a shithead, into something a lot more sinister.

What’s up with that weird answer? These creeps never give a straight answer when you ask them direct questions. If that person just wants to be edgy and thinks it’s funny… Well, maybe they’re a dumb, poorly socialised teenager. Cos it’s not funny. It’s not even a joke, really, is it? What’s the joke? That they’re not actually Hitler?

The halo and angel wings on the pfp take this to another level imo.

Oh it’s definitely Brummie, mm mm mmmmm

Just don’t add the surveillance and spam features in the first place. 👍 Fuck off, Mozilla.

You asked people to explain. People explained that you’re coming across as a dick, in a thread explicitly about regrettable, gullible moments. I don’t know what you’re having a problem with here but it seems like you’re the one having an emotional reaction, calling people cowards and refusing to hear people’s explanations.

I think the reason your initial comment comes across hostile is because of the way it’s written (chaining questions), and the way you’re asking things that have an obvious answer.

However, you didn’t write anything explicitly hostile. It’s a question that could come across either way, and if you genuinely had no mocking or hostile intent I would have suggested rereading and rewording your comment to make that clearer, as it’s tough to interpret that kind of thing through text. I’ve totally left comments that read hostile when I didn’t intend it to, it just happens sometimes! 🤷‍♂️

This is by far the most consistent I’ve been with strenuous exercise ever. I’ve tried before, but it never clicked for me; I always felt embarrassed, awkward, gangly, unfit, and just awful. I always walked a lot, so that kept me somewhat in shape, but I was deffo weak and my cardio was dogshit.

What changed for me was buying a small, cheap, simple set of dumbbells, and trying to do a routine I found on YouTube. I failed about halfway through, and the comments were full of people being like “I’m a 70 year old woman and these workouts keep me nice and spry” and I just thought, like… I’m a 28 year old man what the fuck am I doing if I can’t physically outwork a 70 year old woman (not to be sexist about it but just physically yknow). So I kept pushing until I could do that routine, and completing it felt really positive. So I kept going for that feeling, and eventually learnt to enjoy even how it feels to exercise, regardless of completing. I’m up to a five-minute plank now, aiming for fifteen one day, and working on other goals too.

You’ve got to find your own way into it. Or, just brute force it if you can do that. I am reticent to say just don’t do it, because we know what happens to people who never exercise.

I went through a rough breakup between June and August last year. At first, I drank and slept around. Then, I got sober. I’m sort of over it by now, genuinely, but the spark is gone. I don’t really want to see people, despite how badly I want to see people. I don’t know what to say. I feel sort of nonplussed about everything.

I work my ass off all day, come home, work out, eat right, work my ass off all evening, then when I’m done I play bass or guitar, paint miniatures, take photos, do little bits of graphic design practice, and fall into bed around midnight.

I’m lonely. I think I’m starting to accept that this is just how it’s gonna be for me, at least for now.

All that to say; it may be helpful to practice some genuine acceptance. When I’m feeling real beat up about being sad and lonely, I get my shoes on and go for a walk. No destination in mind, no matter the time of day. I put my earphones in, put on some sad music, and walk until I get sick of myself moping and just accept that yes, this is how it is. Then I’ll put on a podcast I enjoy, or something I can learn from, or I’ll just take the earphones out and enjoy nature as I walk back towards home.

Focus on yourself. Being lonely isn’t rare these days, but being completely alone gives you complete freedom. I’m fairly new to working out, but I’ve stuck to a relatively consistent schedule for four months or so and my body looks and feels so much better. I’m working on my pull-up and dead hang form at the moment, and I’m finding it really tough but really rewarding. I’m on week 2 of 100 push-ups per day, and seeing my body go from barely being able to do 15 in a set, to almost doing 30 in a set, has been really fun! You don’t get the opportunity to be selfish with your time without guilt very often in life, and if you’re gonna be alone anyway you may as well make the most of it.

Those are proactive things that take effort, but for an easier suggestion: avoid YouTube. Avoid Netflix. Avoid TV or streaming. Don’t sit there and wallow. If you’re gonna wallow, get up and move while you’re wallowing. No point letting your body and mind feel shitty at the same time. I sold my TV and my PS5. I sold my sofa. My lounge is now a desk, my hobby stuff, and a radio. I feel productive. I feel great. I feel so fucking earth-shatteringly bored that I have to do something, rather than just sitting on my ass watching shit I don’t even care about.

I wish you the best my friend ✌️

Oh! Also! Get a bit weird with it. I grew my hair out for seven years, but I trimmed it earlier this year, then shaved it all off after getting sober. Just recently, I shaved it into a mohawk, and a couple of weeks ago I shaved designs into the sides of my head. Whether it looks good or not isn’t the point; the point is about reclaiming your self expression, and enjoying your selfish experience. Be self centered. Be protective of your time. Be expressive. Do what you want. Say what you want. Spend how you want. Sell your sofa. Paint your walls. Do something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t because you’ve felt self-conscious. If you’re feeling invisible at the moment, make the most of it. I started baking recently, too. Totally blew my calorie budget for the day but I ate a whole loaf of chocolate chip banana bread and honestly it was worth it.