But what does complete control help with putting food on the table? At least the professional content creators can do it professionally because they make money from YouTube and Twitch

My guess: these men never learned how to maintain and care for a relationship or cannot stand up for themselves. At the beginning of a relationship everything is exciting and without maintenance (from both sides) it quickly goes downhill. I can imagine for some of those men this downhill part is their equivalent view of marriage / long term relationship. Which checks out if your experience is dominated by passive or active neglect from/of their partner ,

First of all: rude! I dont want to think about climbing on 40.

Jest aside here are some things I always put off writing down from the back of my mind:

If you have the support structure, get children at the earliest point you feel somewhat comfortable - do you’ll be around each other for longer.

No table stands only on two legs - you should always cultivate three sets of skills that are potentially money earning.

Tend to your outlets - everyone should do something as an emotional, creative, physical and structural outlet. You also must avoid combining more than two. Always create something, never stop moving and always consider your self and others well-being.

Maintain your attention span - avoid inattentive use of fast paced media

Budgeting, learn it, do it, don’t overcomplicate it. There is no way to become rich fast and stay a decent person.

Strive to learn at least one other language - every language is like you unlock a new facette of your soul.