Rhoeri

My best tool in coping with grief, as a neurodivergent that has had a lifetime of difficulty in dealing with/understanding loss- has been in the acceptance that I was never going to avoid this.

What I mean is, this was something that was going to happen eventually. They could not have outrun it, they could not have “healthed” their way around it. It WILL happen. And accepting this goes a long way to help to resolve the constant “what could I have done differently” part.

What does this have to do with nightmares? I’m getting to that.

Basically, Grief comes in two flavors;

There’s the “selfish” part, which is the idea that YOU won’t ever get to be with them again- and how it hurts that YOU will now forever have a massive hole in YOUR life that get once filled, that they will never have any new interactions with YOU

And then there’s the “selfless” part, which is sadness and empathy for THEIR pain, and the worry that THEY were suffering, that THEY will never have any new reactions with you.

When these two things mix together- from my experience, the selfish one is always the loudest. It’s the one that drives the knives into my heat.

… and it’s the one that brings the nightmares.

And nightmares oftentimes are a subconscious manifestation of guilt.

Once you come to terms with the fact that this was something that was always going to happen, it gets easier to work through the pain and come to a place of peace. Just know that the love you had for her remains untouched and timeless.

The nightmares will eventually cease, and her all of your memories of her will bring warmth and comfort.

Just hang in there and try and be good to yourself through this.

❤️

Aaaaaand…. Boycotted.

lol… it sucks to suck.

Could you imagine if this was a thing? Foods with flavor profiles switched with texture profiles of other foods?

Think about it:

We could actually achieve…. STEAK fries.

Rule 6.

“Everything will be okay”

Yeah, check the comments. It’s become one.

It’s a political post.

Breaks Rule 6 by asking why rule 6 exists.

Nuance is rarely applied, nor wanted in most online discussion. Everything has to be a black-or-white, with-us-or-against-us mentality.

The moment you say-

“Yeah, but….”

Anything you have to say is immediately flamed.

Nope. And I never will be.

It’s lemmy.

I don’t see the reason to lie to complete strangers. Why should someone care what people they don’t care about think?

And with that any chance I’ll ever buy a Microsoft product ever again.

I don’t answer those questions.

Hamsterdance - USA.

It captures the mindset of our current administration and it goes through my head whenever I think of the bumbling redneckery they churn out on a daily basis.

What we all just read here, is a cautionary tale on what everything wrong looks like when put into a few sentences.

I am on Reason 3.0. Zero issues ever.

Propellerhead’s Reason.

It’s some of the best audio engineering software that exists and as I understand, impossible to pirate.

Underrated comment.