Goal: put on muscle mass.
Do exercises within all of these categories:
Any program I do must have those. Beyond that, isolation exercises as needed. I’m adding shoulders and arms as I want big ass arms.
This year I mostly did 3x a week full body. Now I’m gonna change to Upper, Shoulders/Arms, Lower. More ShArms to bro out, less leg frequency as they’re growing faster than everything else.
Estimate your total daily energy expenditure:
Eat in a caloric deficit. You will need to weigh your food and track calories, at least for a while.
Weigh yourself and see if the weight is going in the right direction and not losing too fast either. Adjust calories as needed.
It’s way harder than just these steps but this is the foundation. Personally I found the food weighing and calorie counting massively stressful but I got a good sense of how much to eat from doing it from a few weeks. Now I check the scale and log weight and make sure it’s going the way I want it.
Also talk to a therapist. I needed one to get over certain mental barriers and to re-evaluate my relationship to food and my body image.
Have used the apps on and off for a while. When things didn’t go well on them and swiping and chatting only to be ghosted was taking a toll on me, I deleted them and focused on other things in my life for a few months, then returned.
When I still set myself as looking for men on the apps, I’d get a 10:1 ratio of likes from men to women/NB. Men who swiped on me would often be obviously incompatible if they read my profile or have minimum effort profiles. So I turned off looking for men on the apps.
Where I live is pretty accepting of LGBTQ+ people and there’s a good sized queer scene IRL so I can easily find events to meet queer people. However I have severe RBF, generally act unapproachable in-person, look a little scary, am clueless to hints, and don’t drink or party, so for meeting women I use the apps and IRL events specifically for single people.
Not a lot of success so far, but I’ve learned a LOT about what I don’t like in a person. I’ve learned to listen to my instincts. When things felt off and I carried on with the dates I met on the apps, things went badly. As a result, I’m much more in touch with what I want too. I was in a long-term relationship for years before where I compromised too much and settled with someone who I never should have. Dating many people has allowed my own preferences and desires to resurface and has given me a lot of confidence and self-esteem back.
Early teens:
D’Angelo’s video for Untitled (How Does It Feel)? made me realize I like dudes too. Round the same time I remember blushing heavily watching the male gym teacher do pushups.
Knew I liked women earlier when some kid snuck a stack of porno mags and a bunch of kids flipped thru em ogling the titties etc.
Sure, they’re not a bad place to shop. But making it a personality trait is excessive.
Also Costco hotdog is the only true stablecoin.
Apparently the first world is free or something, yet everyone is so amazingly conformist. From the way they speak to the way they dress to the work they do and friendships and relationships, the vast majority is content to live a life of greige and shopping at Costco.
You can say “suicide”, it’s fucking fine to use dirty words on the internet.
Hell yeah. Carbon steel pans are great. Gonna get a carbon steel wok soon and then home deep frying is gonna be a breeze.
Would be surprised how many people used scratched Teflon pans. I watched one friend of mine put the empty non-stick pan with no oil or anything on maximum heat to “pre heat the pan” before adding oil. Very sketchy.
New years’ resolutions don’t really work for 2 reasons:
Or,
I find myself luckily in the latter case. I’ll take the new year as a chance to evaluate where I am with my goals and adjust priorities, if needed.