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Cake day: March 17th, 2025

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  • I got divorced from a 10+ year relationship in my late 20s, and then had a nasty, bad breakup from my first relationship after at 30. I had a small group of friends that stuck around, but lost many in the process of each breakup.

    I never really kept in touch with people from highschool and earlier, though, so I can’t comment on them

    Things do get better. At 35 I’m now in a better relationship than I ever had before. I have new friends and new circles. A new chapter in my life was started, and things are better than they ever have been before.

    I don’t know if this will work for you, maybe it doesn’t work out sometimes. But guys can, and do, recover from it.



  • When I was younger, maybe 8-10, I was at the beach with my family. I had always been a strong swimmer, we went to this beach fairly often, there were plenty of people around, and always had lifeguards on duty. It wasn’t stormy or bad weather at all.

    I was swimming on my own when I got stuck in the undertow of the waves. I remember getting pulled back about 6 feet underwater before I was able to surface again. By that point, I was hit by the next wave, knocking me over and back into the undertow. This repeated for what felt like an hour but was probably only around 5 minutes, maybe 10. I was anxiously looking for lifeguards and trying to signal for help anytime I was on the surface, but no one ever noticed me.

    My grandmother had taught me what to do if I ever got stuck in the waves, though, and instead of trying to fight the current I just started riding it and swimming parallel to the shore. I eventually got back to the beach and walked back to my family, and I remember it being so much longer to get back that seemed reasonable.

    I was sure I was going to drown, getting sucked out and down under the ocean.






  • Something rubs the the wrong way about how the teacher presented that problem. Was the lesson supposed to be “don’t believe anything unless you can verify it yourself”? In his example, he was the unreliable source. I’m assuming he was infering the paper can also be an unreliable source? I’m hoping he went into the importance of checking multiple, credible sources to get a larger picture, rather than just leaving it at “you always might be lied to”. A blanket “don’t trust so-called authorities for facts” is how we end up with people questioning vaccines and flat earthers turning from satire to something troubling.