BirdEnjoyer

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Just to let you know, the whole thing where you look back on every little thing you do and cringe won’t magically go away when you’re an adult.

That’s a self-esteem thing, not a teenager thing.

I guess what I’m saying is that this is one of those things that can get better, but won’t just magically get better on its own. It didn’t get better for me until I got some control in my physical health (stuff that would affect my perspective) and took agency in my mental health.

If you’re in the situation to do so, check out what kind of therapy resources are available to you. You can just try a bunch until you find one that really clicks, and a lot offer free brief consultations.
Many employers offer 4-10 free visits for any immediate family members/offspring, too!

I’m sorry you feel so critical of yourself all the time. Its so draining to live like that.

I started using two so I could more easily remote game with my sibling.

The second one would have their screen stream up, so it was like we were playing split screen co-op back in the day. :)

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My mother’s coworker’s child made a bacon bundt cake, and specifically sent a piece for her.

I agreed to eat it with my mother out of solidarity.

Honestly, she’s like, 9 or something, and did a great job of it. Kinda had a bacon pancake going, didn’t have many tunnels or anything. Would be a great dessert for a barbecue, that kinda thing.

But no one in my immediate family is that into bacon, let alone being combined with sweets.

The quiz shows up in multiple games, I thiiiink this question started showing up in Morrowind though, iirc.

That one question from the Elder Scrolls class/Personality quiz was uncomfortably prescient:

Question 4: There is a lot of heated discussion at the local tavern over a group of people called ‘Telepaths’. They have been hired by certain City-State kings. Rumor has it these Telepaths read a person’s mind and tell their lord whether a follower is telling the truth or not.

Combat Response: This is a terrible practice. A person’s thoughts are his own and no one, not even a king, has the right to make such an invasion into another human’s mind.
Magic Response: Loyal followers to the king have nothing to fear from a Telepath. It is important to have a method of finding assassins and spies before it is too late.
Stealth Response: In these times, it is a necessary evil. Although you do not necessarily like the idea, a Telepath could have certain advantages during a time of war or in finding someone innocent of a crime.

It looks like the kids these days are all mana-slingers lol

Oh, I understand that. My handwriting isn’t great, and I used to do absolutely massive, elaborate drawings, dabbled in asian calligraphy, etc. those skills do not translate.

This is a bit more low tech, but you mention technique, and I think people should hand write things more. At least, for first drafts.

You neurologically process things in a different way when you use your hand in that manner, and the act of transcribing your own work into a computer or device is an incredible editing measure in its own right. It forces commitment and flow, which is so precious in our time of short attention and focus.

Also, its good to be fluent in both skills, because you never know what could happen to your body. Realizing you haven’t extensively used a pen or pencil much in years is a pretty fucky kinda feeling from a motor dexterity perspective.

I’ve seen some incredible 2D Christmas trees with gallery rails, if you celebrate.

My local discount zoo of a store was selling cold brew tea for a dollar so now I have twenty-four boxes of cold brew Watermelon Lime Zinger.
But seriously, for $1 that’s crazy economical and I am on some medication where it is paramount that I stay hydrated.

My more normal snag is produce crates. The local asian market literally gives them away and they’re incredible tools for organization! They stack, you can take wire cutters to the plastic grill on side to make them into stackable cubbies, and they help organize the trunk of your car.

If I’m doing better in the spring I’d like to ise them to make raised beds for growing some veggies.

Oooh, this sounds nice, I don’t know why I haven’t done one for myself. The ones I tried with suction cups don’t ever work.

Stl link?

Yeah, its a red flag.
They indicate potential problems, which is why you look for multiple, but even one obvious one is enough to make you a bit cautious, it makes sense.

But if its someone I know, and who isn’t a native English speaker and is pretty chill, I’m probably going to let it slide for a couple uses, then gently ask them why they’re using a certain term in a nice pause in the conversation.

I’m lucky to have had friends from lots of other places, but it can make things so awkward with corrections, even if it has to be done.
But people can absolutely wind up learning horrendously out of date language without meaning any malice. I’ve seen it happen because of confusion regarding the existence of the NAACP, and the use of the term, “People of Color.”

The way OP is talking makes it sound like he could likely talk it out with the other people, and I think that may be the best option. (though I can understand why they may want some insight from the internet first)

Can you give us more context?

“Woman” is almost always preferred because it respects one’s personal identity, as opposed to the compulsory status of biological sex, which is often used as a source of belittlement and/or bigotry against women. (and carries a whole plethora of baggage when people decide they get to judge someone’s female-ness)

But it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t generally be able to use the term “female” without causing social friction, if you have a good amount of social grace.

(its actually quite normal in fantasy/scifi circles, for example)

I think you may be asking the wrong question- you may want to explain what you were talking about and ask what specific phrases or situations might have unsettled people.

Maybe it was just a weirdly specific English faux pas, or maybe you have a friend who is a little extra sensitive after bad experiences and who could use your support. Maybe its a total miscommunication- who knows?

This would be my guess- Reddit is more reliable for random queries than much of the internet, as AI propagates.

I see more and more suggested “my search Reddit” on Google even as I visit Redfit way less now

Bought Bitcoin or have tried to buy a shoebox of a house.

But I listened to all the “sensible” people and went for a graduate level program instead like an idiot, and then couldn’t do anything with it for a litany of reasons. Just one family emergency or health problem after another.

The worst of all maybe could have been avoided if I hadn’t been off at school in the first place. I don’t regret college, but my education should have stopped there. I was finally an adult, but I still let everyone else dictate my life, right from the getgo.

Biggest regret of my life, right out of the gate.

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