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Cake day: February 23rd, 2024

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  • It really depends. Both on how much I peed, and also how decent the TP is. Basically however many it takes not to saturate the TP, and not get urine/blood/mucus on my hands. Could be three, could be a ton.

    I’ll use a TON more during my period, as even with a cup in, blood finds it’s way onto my skin and then the flow of the urine helps spread it to every nook and cranny.

    Another thing to take into account is discharge. That definitely takes extra TP, it’s thicker and a few squares won’t hold up.

    TL;DR whoever gives a consistent amount of squares is either lying or has a much nicer vagina than I do






  • There’s probably stuff that’s a lot worse in a vacuum, but tbh my dad giving me the talk about his own childhood trauma and the cycle of abuse. He concluded it by telling me to remind him of “the cycle” next time he’s raging.

    Even as a kid I knew that telling a large, angry man with a belt in his hand and daddy issues, “hey, you’re acting like your father” would just make the beatings harder.

    Second runner up is that apparently he convinced my brothers and sisters that I was the favorite and he never abused me like he did them. That meant they hated me and abused me too.

    Third runner up is probably the hoarding or the 24/7 black mold exposure or maybe the animal hoarding, or possibly when he assaulted a woman in front of me (although technically not something he did to me)






  • My mother’s policy was that the first time we do something wrong, talk with us, help us learn why it was wrong and how we should have acted. If we do it again even with that knowledge, punish us.

    I feel like that would apply here, too, even if you don’t see leaving them with the consequences as actively punishing them. But as a kid it’s easy to get in over your head before you learn your own limits, and you’re not born with the knowledge of how to bail yourself out. I think they deserve a grace period.