Like what with all the fascism going on, Trump teasing a third term, and even now passing a law to be able to deport U.S. Citizens. I can’t imagine people taking these threats lightly. So basically, how are you holding up?

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    Not so great to be honest. I’ve spent almost 30 years fighting to change all of this, and everything we have gained could all just be gone in the snap of the finger. And much worse.

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      I’ve been involved for less than half as much time and haven’t been through what the older ones have, but one of them told me something I’ve been thinking about lately.

      They said the political and legislative fights are important but the true battles are for hearts and minds. They take longer to win but those victories are final because once people see a world in which we belong they can’t unsee it.

      So it’s a fact that hard-won rights now can be taken with the snap of a finger, or simply ignored, but it won’t stand for long because most people won’t accept anything less as just. That is, it’s too late to undo what you fought for. The battles you won are won.

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      It really is, though. It’s not easy to do that every day, but cheers to you for every day you make it through to sleepy times.

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    I’m trans, lesbian, and Hispanic. Next week I’m permanently leaving the US with my partner.

    This week has had a lot of crying. I cried at my work goodbye party on Tuesday. Yesterday I hosted a going away show for my community at an amazing bar (I’m a performer). Have you ever seen 50 people crying simultaneously at a bar? Today I cried when I said my last goodbyes to my coworkers, since they are actually great people.

    So overall very heavy with mixed feelings. I’m thrilled that I have a ticket out of this mess, I’m terrified for my friends and family who are staying behind, I’m beyond furious that this is all happening, I’m mourning the life I’m leaving behind, and I’m exhausted from everything

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      This was a heavy read. I really felt that in my heart.

      I’m a cis straight man, and I welcome you to Europe if that is where you are going. Please enjoy your stay. Hopefully it won’t have to be permanent and you can reunite with your family and friends one day. ❤️

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    To all my LGBT friends out here, stay strapped. Armed minorities are harder to oppress

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    My MRI results came back yesterday, indicating that my left lateral ventricle has stopped expanding and won’t rupture in the future, and my first thought was “oh, I get to endure this future now, but at least I have my wife.”

    That’s right, I get the best possible news from my doctor and my first thought was mixed emotions because of the state of this fucking country.

    I was denied my Gommage.

    Edit: 40 year old trans woman, multiple stroke survivor

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    I’m holding up well in spite of everything. I lost one of my friends this week. She had moved into what I thought was going to be a safe situation several states away and something clearly went wrong. She was a really smart and inspiring person.

    I also just took another friend to the airport so she could permanently relocate to Europe, and two of my other friends are leaving soon too.

    It’s been a rough week but I’m not planning on leaving, mostly working on organizing the trans people who stay.

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      I’m sorry but that is the most high def version of that screenshot I have EVER seen.

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        Right!? i don’t even remember where i downloaded it from, its just what i had in my generic meme stockpile

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    I’m poly, my girlfriend is married to a woman. They have been looking hard at contingency plans. One of them is eligible for dual-citizenship due to ancestry and is looking into that process, and they have confirmed with friends in another country that they could rent a room with them if necessary.

    A couple weeks ago, she asked me if I would marry her in the event they felt the need to divorce and “go undercover” looking more heteronormative.

    They are scared. They feel like they are not that far removed from the “kind of person” who might be next up for disappearances by our current government.

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    Not in the US but my perspective on this whole thing is very mixed. Obviously I’m terrified of the rise of fascism and the exterminatory rhetoric that’s now so common when trans people are mentioned in politics. I’m terrified for a number of my friends, and I can’t help them, I can’t keep them safe and I can’t get them out.

    For now I’m focusing my efforts locally, we’ve largely been able to keep that sort of thing out of Australia and have had some incredible support outside of the queer community at rallies and a recent counter protest against some terfs. I think we’ll be okay, we might even make some progress down here, very exciting and it’s keeping me going despite everything else.

    I’m not holding up well, but I am still standing. I really hope things turn around in the US and UK soon, my heart goes out to you all. I’d say stay strong, but honestly that’s not on you, just stay alive, it’s okay to not fight.

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    I’ve got two trans friends who are a lot younger than me and they’ve both called me dad at this point, which I’ve been thriving on. I’m teaching one to drive, and I’m helping the other fix her house up. Feels good man.

    This has given me the somewhat unique experience of knowing how it feels when your kids are in danger without technically having any kids. I do NOT like this. I’ve cried, screamed, panicked, and lost sleep. I’m getting a lot of relief from protesting and fighting back, but it hurts a lot.

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    It’s pretty bleak yes, our own families sold us out for this shit in their malicious ignorance, I just heard a VA employee tell me an email went out advising all hospital staff to remove rainbow lanyards or stickers or anything “safe space” identifying in their offices, because some patient had complained. This came out while we’re helping my gay veteran friend get ready to die of cancer. Cause he shouldn’t feel safe in the hospital or anything.

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      The patient that complained should go to a different hospital then. The lack of spine from the hospital administration is embarrassing, frankly apaling.

      But given that hospitals in the US are just profit-oriented companies instead of actual healthcare, not too surprising.

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    Not well! My son has an event in Kentucky next weekend. The last time we went, there was trump merch and shit at literally every stand. I’m legit nervous to go this time. The rhetoric has gotten so out of hand, I’m afraid.