You know, before work and everything starts again… sometimes I feel like I’m obsessed with min-maxing my weekend because of the limited time I have. So I usually feel quite guilty if I end up slacking too much. And I tend to be quite aware of how much time I have left. Anyone else that has this issue?
Try and find a job you don’t hate.
I lucked into a book called ‘Discover What You Are Best At.’
Turns out, when you aren’t miserable about going to work, a lot of your other problems vanish.
Nothing I’m good at pays.
Thanks for the book rec but as I mentioned in other comments, I know that there won’t be a job which I’ll enjoy doing 8 hours a day for the rest of my life. I even enjoy my current job sometimes, but I still rather be without it if it was possible. And I’ve also tried different sectors already… Either way, I’ll check out the book.
I was like you; I thought that I hated work and was going to spend my life doing stuff I hated.
When I did the tests in the book I was shocked to find I had talents I’d never realized.
I had never even considered the job I ended up liking.
There are all kinds of jobs out there that you’ve never heard of.
this is really a big part of it. folks who have “pre-monday” dread are dreading something and I feel like we all owe it to ourselves to find a way to work that we don’t dread.
Ikigai, the Japanese philosophy, sums up a good way to try to think about this.
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OP if you’re reading this, I feel you, I’ve been thinking about beginnings/endings/time remaining since I was a little kid and its a fuckin curse, frankly.
As a few people have mentioned, mindfullness is a good thing to learn a bit about and to try to “do” basically every day if you can remember.
You dont need to sit listening to a person who’s doing the “spiritually tuned in reassuring relaxing voice” that mindfulness people make the mistake of doing.
If you stop, put your feet firmly on the ground and feel the floor under your feet (rock your weight up to your toes and back to your heels and really feel the solid quality of the ground for just a sec) thats called ‘grounding’ typically, then take one slow (5 secs or so in and another 5 out) diaphagramatic breath (breathe down and into your belly, not the chest, your belly button should go out instead of your breastbone) and thats it. you’ll now remember whatever youre looking at the next day instead of just going through the motions of your weekend free time.
things end and death is coming for all of us, but not now, and thats worth checking in to
I don’t really hate my job to be honest. It’s just that, no matter what I’d do for pay, it will never be anything I really want to do. I’d rather spend my spare time pursuing whatever studies, hobbies, exercise or random leisure I really want to do. Capitalizing on your interests doesn’t lead to anything good, at least for me. People always say, “try to find your dream job!” but for some people, there will never be. Because capitalism and 40 hour work weeks are unnatural in itself. But yes, mindfulness and meditation is key, still.
I play a lot of idle games in my free time. I really enjoy getting home from work, setting up my machine and watching it work.
So, I went and got a factory job where I go in, set up my machine and watch it work for 12 hours. I’m really good at my job, too, because I don’t hate it
Bull. This is corporate propaganda for the grind culture, the same capitalist culture that is currently grinding the middle class into the gutter.
I love my job. I’m pretty fucking good at it, probably wouldn’t be much good at anything else. But, I wouldn’t do it for free. I wouldn’t do it if I didn’t need a job. And I still get burnt out on the constant demands it makes on my time and energy. Turns out, humans value play over obligation. We are most fulfilled, happy, and joyful at play. Play is like the opposite of obligation. The only thing worse than being forced to work is watching as your play (fulfilling thing you enjoy doing) turns to work (that thing you’re obligated to do for survival).
It’s the time that is the difference, not the bullshit fallacy of “do what you love”. If we could all survive off of a 3-4 day work week and a 3-4 day weekend, that might actually make a dent on those problems. We might all find we’re all a lot less stressed, fulfilled, and able to connect more meaningfully with the rest of humanity.
OP hates his weekends.
If he has a job he doesn’t hate, he might be able to relax for two days because he doesn’t dread Monday morning.
It would be nice if we were all living in a world where a minimum wage job let you thrive. Until then, we try to do the best we can.